my husband and i don’t celebrate Valentines Day.

i object to the idea that society allocates a day where people are told they should be entirely focused on love. do not tell me when and how i should express my love for someone. it’s inappropriate and entirely unwelcome.

other reasons why i don’t like it:

it makes lonely and unhappy people even more lonely and unhappy, whether they’re single or in a relationship.

it encourages people to put unrealistic expectations on their partners - particularly women towards men - expectations like romantic declarations of love from atop tables in the middle of crowded food halls, or presents like gigantic bouquets of red roses, fancy chocolates, and oversized stuffed teddybears that cost some people most of their paycheque.

it makes it hard for people who are born around this date to celebrate their birthday with their friends and family.

it gives people an excuse to treat their partners like shit for the rest of the year as long as they do something “romantic” today.

it gives florists an excuse to cover the goddamn pavement out the front of their shop with rose petals.

it means the supermarkets are even more overflowing with chocolate in bright, attractive packaging.

that is all. :)

p.s: happy birthday for yesterday, jack. i love you.

sometimes friends can mean so much to you that you’d feel as though you’d lost a limb if you lost them. and sometimes, you’re lucky enough to have that feeling requited, sometimes even with the same friends. i think thats pretty special. i never thought i’d keep friends, never thought i’d ever meet anyone who would understand, or at least endure, enough to want to stay. but it seems i have, and i’m totally buzzing. its nice.

i have much expenditure this month: bills to pay, pc bits to buy, and a friend to pay back for giving me a ticket to the best concert ever - a perfect circle. and i think i want a real synthesiser. plus aforementioned fact of lots of people close to me being born this month. one down, and 5 to go - happy birthday, dad!

my links page is now up and running, for your information. so far, you’ll find links to blogs and comics i read, and bands i like. if you want to be added, email me. and yes, comments are coming soon (next on the list).

i love this weather. its dark, and rainy, and perfect for going back to bed. or watching a movie, curled up on the couch, covered with a quilt. or going back to bed.